When I think about the end of the year, one of two images comes to mind:
Frantic. Holiday. Rush. Overcommitted schedules, cycling between hosting, attending, and recovering. End-of-year deadlines. Overwhelming family dynamics. Impossible parking near any shopping center. And nervous breakdowns - probably more than one.
or...
The still, quiet, transition to winter. Curling up between cozy blankets and fuzzy socks, warm drinks and books in hand. A liminal space, offering a chance to reflect on the past year, and preparing for a new one.
While most of our holiday seasons will probably fall somewhere in-between the two, what I think is important to remember is that we have choice. And the choices we make can make a big difference when it comes to our well-being and mental health.
This month worked with Happify on an interview about the all too common phenomenon of holiday burnout, and just how to prevent and navigate its up's and down's.
You can read the full article here, as well as find a few takeaways below:
Key thoughts:
Burnout often happens when we do things that are out of alignment with what's actually authentic to us. Forcing your introvert into an extrovert, or dragging yourself through obligations that drain you, takes more energy and creates more stress in the system, which ultimately ends up fighting back. Instead, choose the parts of the holidays that are most aligned with you, and don't feel guilty about saying no to the commitments that aren't a hell yes. You don't have to do it all, just because everyone else is.
Work with, rather than against, nature. The days are shorter, the air is colder, and other more sensible animals are making their way into hibernation. While the holidays are a wonderful time to enjoy many of the celebrations the end of the year brings, be thoughtful about your body's natural need to slow down a bit and make space for rest, too - whatever that may look like for you.
If you find yourself in stressful circumstances you simply can't avoid, finding meaning in them can actually turn negative stress into positive stress. We call this eustress. Yes, staying up all night to wrap gifts for the kids may be painful, but you do it for something bigger, like lasting family memories. Focus on the why when things get tough, and the body will sometimes show you it's stronger than you thought.
