“Some people spend their whole lives in love with the idea of who a person could become, and fail to see who they are.” - Mark Groves
I think this actually goes two ways...So often when we date people for their "potential," we miss seeing and wholeheartedly loving who they are - inside and out - as they are. If we are not willing to do that, then we simply aren't in the right relationship in the first place.
But I also think we're often striving so hard to reach our own potentials because we're unwilling to take the time to actually stop and understand who we are, as we are - strengths, flaws, scars, and quirks - either. Perhaps we're even afraid or ashamed to.
Don't get me wrong, there is nothing inherently wrong with wanting to grow and better yourself and others. But are you doing so at the expense of knowing - or better yet, accepting and actively loving - all of the immense and imperfect beauty of who you or your partner actually are?
Disclaimer: While occasionally I include research and insights from my graduate classes in clinical psychology on my blog, I am not at this time a licensed therapist or mental health provider and therefore no content on this blog or website should not be considered or serve as replacement for therapeutic advice.
